Right now we see each other 4-5 times a week, and I mostly I stay at his place.He also has this professional project that’s a big priority.I get asked a lot of relationship-themed questions given where I work, and one of them is from women with boyfriends who want to know how long to wait for the ring.These aren’t women who have been dating for two months, but rather women who are in long-term relationships.Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.He’s been working on it for more than 2 years so I don’t know if that’s also a factor in why he’s reluctant to move forward.We almost never fight, but when we do it’s always about the bigger issue: our future together. I’ve told him that I’ll wait and believe he’ll be worth it.
If your idea of planning for the future together is deciding whether to defrost chicken or beef for tomorrow's meal, girl, forecast is looking frosty.I love your column and think you do a great job of answering questions and concerns with sympathy, empathy and insight. I asked if that’s why he doesn’t want to move in—because he’s afraid we’ll break up and it’ll be a pain to move out. We knew a couple who broke up after living together.We get the 'bros before hoes' BS but if he's always going to meet them and doesn't ever introduce you, it's beyond not OK.He should want to show you off to his friends as soon as possible (you ARE amazing after all) so if he hasn't, we'd say that's a massive red warning sign. If you're always the one making plans and he can never be bothered, ditch him. A guy who's invested in the relationship will make the effort and not just rely on you to do all the work, all the damn time.